Sunday, August 28, 2005


So, stress is a bad thing for anyone and really bad when you have MS. Naturally, I've had additional stress this week.
My husband and I had an issue with his ex-wife and her new husband. Apparently they don't like it that we don't want to handle the problems they have with the kids when the kids are at their mom's house. They don't like that we don't want to get involved because the kids do not behave that way at our house. So this whole situation came to a head when my step-son threw a huge temper tantrum, at 11 years old and the step-dad called us screaming at us to take care of it. We hadn't seen the kids in two months. I got mad and said they created this monster and needed to take care of it themselves.
This made them so mad my husbands ex-wife told me that someone, she didn't tell me who, is glad that I have MS.
In the meantime, I've been crying all week and fearing having my step-kids over because I said, "How can we have a relationship with them when we're under scruitiny by their Mom and Step-Dad?"
My husband wasn't looking forward to it either, however, my daughter said, "Don't they love me anymore?" When another week went by and she hadn't heard from her brother and sister.
It tears me up!!

I need to have less stress, I really can't stand it anymore!
I mean, I'm not having major symptoms, except for the fatigue and wanting to bury my head in the sand, but the shots must be helping. I'm on week 40 of the shots too, so that's a good thing. It's just that with everything, the shots just don't seem to be getting easier. But maybe that's the stress. UGH!!! :-)
It will get better, it's really got to get better!


mdmhvonpa said...

Hmmm, it seems as though their chickens are coming home to roost. From the description, they apparently tried to appease the kids and 'befriend' them instead of acting like parents. They are laying blame elsewhere via projection to alleviate the fear that they are to blame for the behavior. I know you cannot help but worry over this. You are part of an organism that, although through no fault of your own, is under duress and needs to muster a defense. Everything, most everything, does get better. Or at best, it dulls with time and distance.

Erik said...

Sorry, hope things start going better!